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I love my friends. I have no idea what I would do without the people in my close circle who see me for what I can be and not what I am. Not everyone accepts us just the way we are, but love is required always. Family and friendships involve loyalty and Jonathan’s relationship with God first gave him the ability to face the conflicting loyalties in hostile conditions. Close friendships bring about challenging difficulties. Are your friendships growing closer together when your they are tested? Are they based on commitment to God first? Are you loyal? Even to the end?

friend1I’ll never forget the day I watched my best friend drive away as she waved at me from the backseat of her parents car, headed to another state. I was devastated and wracked with tears for a girl I knew I would probably never see again. We had shared so much laughter, so many tears, so many warm moments in bonds that cannot be broken. But broken they were because time doesn’t always heal all wounds.

1 Samuel 20:42 – Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace, for we have sworn friendshipwith each other in the name of the Lord, saying, ‘The Lord is witness between you and me, and between your descendants and my descendants forever.’” Then David left, and Jonathan went back to the town.

friend3Webster defines friendship as: The state of being friends; friendly relation, or attachment, to a person, or between persons; affection arising from mutual esteem and good will; friendliness; amity; good will.

Jonathan had sworn loyalty to God’s chosen heir to the throne, David, and also remained loyal to his father who wanted David dead. David addressed himself to Jonathan with the reverence of a servant rather than the freedom of a friend. They had the greatest affection imaginable. And the separation of two faithful people was grievous to them both. David left all his comforts, and Jonathan returned to family and friends. God has made us with an everlasting covenant with His Son.

friend2Let me share something with you. It took me a long time to realize that drugs and alcohol were not my problem. I had a relationship problem. With everyone. I was deep in “approval addiction” and didn’t even recognize it. I did whatever I needed to do to get on everyone’s nice list (whether it be the junkie on the street, the drug dealer, friends on the outside, friends on the inside) and all it got me was a ton of grief. I ended up pushing everyone away, even after the drugs were no longer a problem. I was desperate for love, the kind of love that couldn’t come from any human being, yet I was seeking worldly love anyway. I just wanted friendship. I wanted to be friends with the people that were talking about me behind my back right in front of my face. I wanted to befriend those whose hearts were set on their own agendas. I wanted to be friends with those who would gladly stab me in the back, throw me under the bus, and then speak kindness to my face. I was desperate!! Many a tear were cried and for what?!?! So that I could be distracted by the lies of the enemy and not focus on the truth. Days upon days of drowning in self-pity and clawing for some sort of surface where I felt I could stand up again and reclaim my “friends” and in all reality reaching for people that I had no right to reach out to. There in lies the error of my ways. Jesus is my only friend for life. When our friendships are based on our common love for our Savior, then they CAN be as true and as deep as the one between David and Jonathan.

friend4You can read 1 Samuel 18-21 about Saul’s vain attempts at killing David and the friendship between David and Jonathan at www.biblegateway.com.. What a testimony to God’s favor and mercy upon us all! Join in the discussion by posting comments or questions below and let’s do this together!! #ReadtheBible #bgbg2 #BibleGateway #newbeginnings #1Samuel

To further your reading, and to dive a bit deeper, consider this from

John 15:12-14 – My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command.

Are we doing as Christ commands? Are we practicing sacrificial love? Listening? Helping? Encouraging? Giving? What kind of friend are you?

Related Scriptures: Proverbs 13:20; Proverbs 22:24-25; Proverbs 18:24