Have you ever pulled out the blame-thrower, aimed it at whoever was nearby, then ducked for cover? I’m GUILTY. The reality is that some people place unwarranted blame and don’t even duck. Ducking for cover would mean they were convicted of the fact that just threw someone under the bus for no reason. I still have to be very careful because it became a part of who I was and I do not want to drag myself back into THAT pit. When we don’t want to shed the light of Truth on our circumstance, falling into the blame-thrower mentality seems like the easiest route. There was a time when I did not want to take responsibility for anything. The most powerful thing I have ever done in my life is to ask God to show me the truth about myself. When He did, I wanted to run and hide under a bed. I didn’t want to face it. The truth about me hurts, but blaming others and throwing them under the bus only to run over them time and again hurts even worse. I took comfort in the fact there are many, many, many examples of people in the Bible using their blame-thrower. I even used those stories as an excuse to keep it up. But they are in the Bible, their nakedness is revealed, and God showed them to me so that I don’t make the same mistakes.
Genesis 3:12-13 – The man said, “The woman who you put here with me – she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it. Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
It’s always someone else’s fault, right??? NOT. I have a choice to make. My life is so much easier when I take responsibility for my own actions. The ones I love are sick and tired of me firing my gun. All it is is a way to shift the guilt, complaining about the adverse circumstances without looking in the mirror. This does not solve any problems, it only serves as an excuse to not change the attitude and behaviors that got me into whatever uncomfortable situation I found myself in. The saddest situation to me is when blame is placed on the very same people who did everything they could to help in a time of need.
James 1:13-15 (NIV) – When tempted, no one should day, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone, 14 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown gives birth to death.
Wow, that is a warning like no other. I am responsible for the wrongs I suffer. Everything is a choice. There are always things out of our control, but a decision must be made as how to handle situations. If I choose to stay the victim, everyone else gets the blame, and God is left out of the picture completely. It’s the beginning of a death spiral.
Satan wants us stuck there, blame-thrower in hand and hiding behind a bush because he knows if we face the truth about ourselves and how God sees us, the truth will set us free. I don’t want to be stuck anymore in that cycle of despair. I want the TRUTH! Even if it’s painful at the moment, JOY always comes in the morning!!! I need to keep my eyes on God and not the problem! Aren’t you tired of making excuses for wrong actions?
John 8:32 – Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free!!
Allow the light to meet the dark and let healing begin.